What 15 years of singleness have taught me

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. Whenever this day rolls around, I am sharply reminded of how long it’s been since I was last in a relationship. I’ve been single for 15 years now, and I think I’ve gotten to the point where I’ve perfected the art of being single. I’m doing it really well. With that amount of time to practice it, I think I’m rocking it by now.

I’m sure a lot of you reading this, especially the women, would be aghast. Fifteen years without a man? Am I normal? (I would be the first to say I probably am not, but then normal is overrated. Admit it.)

It’s not like I’ve had a string of devastating heartbreaks that spurned me from romance. I’m actually in good terms with my exes. They are good, decent men who are now in happy relationships. I was immature and idealistic when I were with them years ago, and the breakups were not really painful enough to embitter me.

But I’m not going to dissect here the many possible reasons why I have remained single all these years. I will leave that to my journal entries. What I’d like to share here is what I’ve learned being single for this long, and after I started taking up dating again last year.

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Pancake House serves yummy Pinoy breakfasts. Their sunny side ups are perfect. #yum

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I love breakfast food. I can eat breakfast all day long. Among the breakfast staples – bacon, eggs, ham, sausages, tapa, chorizo, fried rice – eggs are the King (with bacon being the Queen). It’s not breakfast for me if there are no eggs. I like it sunny side up, poached, boiled, and scrambled. But I’m quite particular with how they are cooked.

I like my sunny side ups over easy, the kind that when you pierce the quivering yolk with a fork, thick golden liquid runs out. (Just imagining it is giving me serious hunger pangs.) For scrambled, I like it a creamy mess and heavily peppered. For boiled, it should be soft with the yolk very gooey.

However, despite my strong love affair with eggs, I have yet to learn how to cook them the way I like them. I know, they’re supposed to be easy. I mean, c’mon, they’re eggs right? But I am a disaster in the kitchen.

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Thank you, 2015

2015, you have been so nice to me. After the tumultuous 2013 and 2014, thank you for giving me a break, 2015.

There are still so many things I’d love to accomplish but all in all, it was a great ride 2015. I was rejected for a scholarship abroad, I went out on a few (some disastrous, some okay) dates, I was pulled out to Manila to work as host media liaison officer assigned to The United States (worked with White House staff), I went around giving talks about communications, social media advocacies, and effective writing. Attended a lot of workshops, did more hosting stints this year, and sang live onstage at SM Freaking Skydome for what was my first public performance and reputation-damaging number. I think that with that number, I have destroyed Cebu’s reputation of being a breeding ground for the best Filipino singers.

I’m excited for what 2016 has in store for me. Like, maybe by 2016, I can finally find a warm body to hug, and not a plastic tree. Who knows.



What and why APEC? (My version of APEC for Dummies)

My favourite coffee shop is the Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf (CBTL), not because of their coffee but because I absolutely adore their Banana Chocolate Muffin. It’s flakey on the outside and moist on the inside. You can really taste the banana goodness in it. I never really realised how perfect a pair banana and chocolate makes until I took a bite of this muffin.

CBTL is “born and brewed” in California, USA. Other American enterprises that have become popular among Filipinos are Krispy Kreme, Starbucks, Forever 21, among others. One of the reasons why these American companies, and other foreign-based ones, were able to set up shop here in the Philippines is because of trade agreements such as those discussed during APEC Meetings.


APEC stands for Asia-Pacific Economic Cooperation (APEC). There are 21 member-economies under APEC: Australia, Brunei, Canada, Chile, People’s Republic of China, Chinese Taipei, Hong Kong, Indonesia, Japan, Malaysia, Mexico, New Zealand, Papua New Guinea, Peru, the Philippines, Russia, Singapore, South Korea, Thailand, the United States of America, and Vietnam. Continue reading →


Bagnet, I wouldn’t mind meeting you again

This is the Bagnet served at Azia Suites and Residences, the hotel located at the back of the building where I work in Cebu City. I asked the F&B staff what can they recommend for a first meal at their hotel, and they said their Bagnet was their most popular dish. I haven’t had breakfast yet that day, so at 1:00 PM, I wolfed this down and nearly licked the plate clean. It was as yum as it was colorful. But my taste buds may have been influenced by how famished I was at the time of the eating, so I know I’ll have to eat this again to give a more unbiased review.

Another thing: this is my first time to eat Bagnet, so I also do not have any basis for comparison.